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When You Don’t Feel It: Following Jesus in a Spiritually Dry Season

Last week we talked about bringing gameday excitement to faith. And this week, we’ll look at it from another perspective.

There are seasons when following Jesus feels alive and electric. The Bible speaks to you, prayer flows, and God feels near.

And then there are the dry seasons.

Maybe you’ve been there. You open your Bible, but the words don’t hit. You pray, but it feels like silence. You keep going to church, but something feels flat. It can leave you wondering: What’s wrong with me?

Here’s the truth: spiritual dryness is normal. And it’s not a sign that God is far away. It’s often a sign that He’s doing something deeper in you—something that doesn’t depend on feelings.

Even King David felt it:

“O God, you are my God; earnestly I seek you; my soul thirsts for you…”
—Psalm 63:1

He wasn’t full of answers. He was full of hunger. And that hunger is part of faith too.

Dry seasons don’t mean your faith is weak. In fact, they can grow it. Why? Because when we keep showing up—when we keep praying, serving, and trusting even when we don’t feel much—we’re learning to walk by faith, not by sight.

That’s maturity.

So what can you do in the dry seasons?

  • Be honest with God. He can handle it. Tell Him what you’re feeling—or not feeling.
  • Stay in the rhythms. Keep reading, praying, and showing up. Don’t let dryness push you into isolation.
  • Lean on community. Sometimes others carry the spark when yours feels dim.
  • Remember the truth. God’s love isn’t based on how inspired you feel. He’s with you, always—even in the quiet.

“Let us not grow weary of doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
—Galatians 6:9

The dry season won’t last forever. But even in it, God is growing something in you.

Questions:

  1. Have you ever been in a spiritually dry season? What did it feel like?
  2. What helps you stay connected to God when you are just not feeling it?
  3. How do you think God uses silence or dryness to grow our faith?
  4. Is there a habit or rhythm that you tend to let go of in these seasons?
  5. How can this group help each other stay encouraged when our spiritual tank feels low?

Game Day Excitement—Bringing That Energy to Faith

It’s that time of year again—college football season! Saturdays are buzzing with energy. Tailgates fire up, stadiums fill, and living rooms become mini arenas as friends and families gather to cheer on their favorite teams. Jerseys come out of the closet, schedules are built around kickoff times, and emotions swing high and low with every big play.

Why do we love it so much? Because being part of something bigger than ourselves excites us. The joy isn’t just in watching the game—it’s in the build-up, the community, and the sense that this matters.

What if we carried that same excitement into our walk with God? What if Sunday morning felt like game day? What if our men’s group gatherings had the same anticipation as kickoff?

The truth is, our Christian walk isn’t meant to be a solo sport. Hebrews 10:24–25 reminds us: “Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together… but encouraging one another.” Just as a team thrives with the energy of its fans, we thrive when we bring energy and presence to our church and community.

Just as players carefully study their playbooks, we’ve also been given God’s Word to guide our lives. We listen to coaches motivate their players, but we have the ultimate Coach in God, who equips us for every season. And just like athletes push each other to be better, we grow stronger when we push one another toward Christ.

Paul uses a similar picture in 1 Corinthians 9:24, writing, “Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize.” Just like athletes train with intensity and passion, we as Christian men are invited to live out our faith with the same kind of focus and energy.

Football season is great—it brings joy, connection, and memories. But it’s temporary. Our walk with Jesus is eternal. When we bring the enthusiasm we show on game day into our spiritual lives, we not only grow stronger ourselves—we help build up the whole team.

So this fall, as you gear up for the big games, don’t forget the bigger “game” we’re in together—the one that truly changes lives.

Questions:

  1. What gets you most excited about college football season, and why?
  2. What did you think about the idea above of bringing that same sense of excitement into church or men’s group?
  3. Just like a team relies on every player, how do you think our faith community relies on your unique gifts and presence?
  4. What’s one simple step you can take this fall to show up with more energy for your faith community?

I Am Somebody

There’s a line from the Coldplay song Viva La Vida that has always struck me: “[I] sweep the streets I used to own.” It captures a certain sting—the reality that time, careers, and titles don’t last forever.

At some point in life, every man leaves the workforce – or at least materially reduces his contribution to the role he’s held. The nameplate comes off the office door. The tools are passed on to someone younger. The meetings go on without us. And when that day comes, it can feel like we’ve lost a piece of ourselves.

Even before retirement, many of us feel the tug of this truth. Maybe you didn’t get the promotion. Maybe the business you poured yourself into isn’t thriving the way you hoped. Maybe you’re realizing that no matter how much you achieve, it never seems to fully satisfy.

It’s because our identity was never meant to be anchored in what we do. Our job, our career, our title—they’re temporary. But who we are in Christ? That’s eternal.

Jesus never introduces us by our work. He doesn’t say, “Well, here’s Peter the fisherman” or “Paul the tentmaker.” He calls us sons of God (1 John 3:1), a chosen people, a royal priesthood (1 Peter 2:9). Our worth is not in our paycheck or our performance but in the One who gave His life for us.

And here’s the good news: the earlier we learn this, the freer and more at peace we become—not only when we step away from our career, but right now in the thick of it. When our identity is rooted in Jesus, work is no longer a place where we prove ourselves. It becomes a place where we serve, reflect God’s love, and steward the gifts He’s given us.

So whether you’re decades away from retirement or feeling it right around the corner, remember this: You are somebody—not because of your title, your role, or your accomplishments, but because you belong to Christ.

As Paul reminds us in Galatians 2:20:

“I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.”

That’s an identity that can never be taken away.

Questions

  1. Have you ever felt like your job title or role defined you more than anything else?
  2. What happens to our sense of peace when our identity is tied too tightly to our work?
  3. How might your day-to-day work look different if you were operating out of your identity in Christ first?
  4. For those who have retired or shifted careers, what has God taught you about where your true identity lies?
  5. What’s one way you can remind yourself this week that your worth is found in Jesus, not your work?

One Word at a Time: Psalm 138:8

“The Lord will fulfill his purpose for me; your steadfast love, O Lord, endures forever. Do not forsake the work of your hands.”
— Psalm 138:8 (ESV)

Sometimes, we rush through verses without realizing the weight each word carries. Psalm 138:8 is one of those verses that’s rich with meaning, hope, and reassurance. Let’s take a moment to slow it down—one word at a time—and let it speak to us in new ways.

The examples below emphasize each word of the verse, one at a time. Read the words in caps with an emphasis and see how it speaks to you differently for each one.

THE Lord will fulfill His purpose for me.

It starts here. The Lord—not just any force, not a random deity, but the one true God. The one who created the heavens and the earth. The one who knows your name. There’s comfort in knowing it’s not just a lord, but the Lord who holds your life.

  • Who or what do we sometimes treat as “lord” in our lives instead of the Lord?

The LORD will fulfill His purpose for me.

This is Yahweh—the covenant-keeping God. The personal God. He’s not far off. He sees you, hears you, knows you. He’s not just powerful—He’s also loving, consistent, and near.

  • What does it mean to you that the Lord is both powerful and personal?

The Lord WILL fulfill His purpose for me.

This isn’t a “maybe.” It’s a promise. He will. Even if it takes longer than expected. Even if the road winds through disappointment. Even if we can’t see how. God is faithful to complete what He starts.

  • Are there areas in your life where you need to be reminded of God’s “will”?

The Lord will FULFILL His purpose for me.

Not just begin it. Not just think about it. Fulfill it. That means completion. Wholeness. Fruit. What God starts, He finishes. You are not a half-finished project in His eyes.

  • Where do you need to trust that God is still at work—even when it feels slow?

The Lord will fulfill HIS purpose for me.

Not your boss’s. Not your neighbor’s. Not even your own best-laid plans. His purpose. And because He’s good, His purpose is good. Sometimes we chase other purposes thinking they’ll satisfy—but only His purpose brings peace.

  • How can you tell when you’re following His purpose rather than your own?

The Lord will fulfill His PURPOSE for me.

There is intentionality in your life. You’re not a mistake. You’re not here by accident. God has a purpose—a reason—for you being here today. And it’s not just about what you do, but who you are becoming in Him.

  • Do you believe your life has purpose today, even in the ordinary moments?

The Lord will fulfill His purpose FOR me.

Not against me. Not in spite of me. For me. He’s for you, not against you. His plans are to give you hope and a future. Sometimes we see God’s hand in hindsight—but He’s working even now, for you.

  • Where have you seen God work for you in the past, even when it didn’t feel like it?

The Lord will fulfill His purpose for ME.

Yes, you. This promise is personal. God’s purpose isn’t just for pastors, missionaries, or “spiritual” people. It’s for the guy who’s tired, the dad who’s overwhelmed, the man who’s trying his best. You matter to God.

  • What changes when you really believe God’s purpose includes you?

Closing Thoughts

When we break it down word by word, Psalm 138:8 becomes more than just a verse—it becomes a lifeline. Each word reminds us that God is intentional, personal, and faithful. His purpose is active, not passive. And it’s not just for someone—it’s for you.

Take a moment this week to write this verse out. Reflect on each word. Ask God to help you live in the truth of it—one word at a time.

Conversation Starters:

  1. Which word stood out to you most in this verse?
  2. How does emphasizing different words help you hear God’s promise in a fresh way?
  3. Where in your life do you need to trust that God is still fulfilling His purpose?

Seeds of Brotherhood: Investing in Friendships Early

When we think about planning for retirement, we hear the same advice over and over again: start early. Financial advisors tell us that the earlier we begin to invest, even with small amounts, the more our savings can grow over time. Compound interest works best when time is on your side. But the same is true in our spiritual and relational lives — especially when it comes to building strong, life-giving friendships.

Friendship, like any meaningful investment, takes time. It’s not built in a rush or squeezed into the leftover moments of our lives. It’s something we plant, water, and nurture over the years. If we want to enjoy the deep comfort, trust, and encouragement of close brothers in Christ later in life, we need to start planting those seeds now.

A Biblical View of Friendship

Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” That kind of brotherhood doesn’t come out of nowhere. It grows through shared time, prayer, and intentional care. Like any good crop, it starts with planting — early and consistently.

Jesus modeled this beautifully. Though He had a public ministry of just three years, He invested deeply in His disciples from the beginning. He ate with them, traveled with them, laughed and cried with them. Even knowing He’d only be with them for a short time, Jesus planted seeds of friendship that would eventually become the foundation of the early Church.

Investing Now for What’s to Come

It’s tempting to put friendship on the backburner — especially in busy seasons of life. Work, family, and other responsibilities can make meaningful connection feel optional. But here’s the thing: when adversity hits, it’s too late to start planting. You need roots already in place.

The best time to invest in friendship is before you think you “need” it.

Friendships are your spiritual 401(k). They won’t grow unless you feed them regularly. That could be a simple weekly check-in, joining a Bible study, making space for coffee with a brother, or even shooting a quick text just to say “thinking of you.” Small investments, over time, pay big dividends.

Jesus Invested in You, Too

Let’s not forget: our model for friendship starts with Jesus. He calls us friends (John 15:15) and laid down His life for us while we were still sinners. If the Savior of the world saw friendship as essential, shouldn’t we?

He knew that relationships are eternal. Money, achievements, and schedules will all pass away, but the love we show and the lives we touch will echo into eternity.

Reflection Questions

  1. Do you agree that investing in friendships can bear an “investment return” similar to your return on your financial investments?
  2. How are you currently investing in your friendships? Are there relationships you’ve been meaning to nurture?
  3. Are you waiting for “free time” to grow friendships? What would change if you prioritized connection like you would a financial investment?
  4. What kind of friend do you want to be remembered as, and what seeds can you start planting today to become that man?

Fewer Soldiers, Bigger God

When we think about gearing up for a battle—whether it’s a literal fight or just the challenge of getting through a tough day—we usually want to bring everything we’ve got. We like having the odds in our favor. But God’s way is very different.

In Judges 7, we meet Gideon, a man called by God to lead Israel against the Midianites. The enemy’s army was massive, like “a swarm of locusts” (Judges 7:12), while Gideon started with a modest force of 32,000 men. But then, God did something unexpected: He told Gideon there were too many soldiers. God didn’t want Israel to claim victory by their own strength. Instead, He wanted the glory to go to Him. So, God told Gideon to let anyone who was afraid go home. That left 10,000.

Still too many.

Then came another cut—this time based on how the men drank water. In the end, only 300 soldiers remained. Three hundred against an army too big to count. But with God, they had everything they needed. And sure enough, through clever strategy and God’s power, they won the battle without even lifting a sword in the initial clash.

So what does that mean for us?

Each day, we step into situations that feel too big. Maybe it’s a workload we don’t feel prepared for, a relationship that feels strained, or a decision we don’t know how to make. Like Gideon, we often wish we had more—more strength, more time, more resources. But sometimes, God allows our “army” to shrink so that we lean harder on Him. He’s not trying to set us up for failure; He’s reminding us that victory doesn’t come from our own strength. It comes from trusting Him.

2 Corinthians 12:9 reminds us, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Just like with Gideon, our weakness can be the perfect setting for God’s strength to shine.

When we start our day feeling under-resourced, we’re in the perfect place to say, “God, I can’t do this on my own—but I know You can.” That’s faith. That’s where growth happens.

Questions:

  1. What resonated with you most about today’s lesson?
  2. Have you ever felt like you didn’t have enough to face a challenge—but somehow got through it?
  3. Can you think of a time when something that seemed like a setback turned out to be a way God showed His power?
  4. What would it look like to trust God more fully in a current situation you’re facing?

When the Ground Feels Shaky: Trusting God in Uncertain Times

Uncertainty doesn’t sit well with most of us. Whether it’s the economy, professional related, or personal, unknowns can make us feel like the ground beneath us is shifting.

I bring this up because lately parts of the economy and daily life have felt less predictable than ever. More frequently in the past few weeks, I’ve heard friends say that they’ve had deals pause or get canceled. And I understand from my son that many of his friends are struggling to find their first job out of college. While these things can stir up anxiety, it can also do something else—it can drive us back to God.

And maybe that’s the point.

Scripture doesn’t promise us an easy or certain path. In fact, Jesus says in John 16:33, “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” That’s not a dismissal of our fears; it’s a reminder that He sees us, knows our struggles, and offers us something steadier than any market: Himself.

When things are going smoothly, it’s easy to think we’re in control. But uncertain times remind us of a deeper truth—we were never meant to walk this life without leaning fully on God. Proverbs 3:5–6 tells us, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” It’s a call to let go of our tight grip and place our confidence in His faithfulness, not in what we can predict or plan.

And while we’re trusting God with our own uncertainties, let’s not forget to look around. Someone near us might be carrying more than they’re letting on. A quiet word of encouragement, a listening ear, or even a simple check-in can go a long way. We were never meant to walk this journey alone—and sometimes, the way God shows up in uncertainty is through each other. Empathy doesn’t cost much, but it can be the very thing that helps someone else breathe a little easier today.

Uncertainty isn’t a punishment—it’s often an invitation. An invitation to pause. To reconnect. To remember that while we may not know what tomorrow brings, we do know the One who holds tomorrow.

Questions:

  1. Have you also experienced more uncertainty than usual recently – personally or those close to you?
  2. How do you usually respond to uncertainty—do you tend to worry, plan harder, or turn to God?
  3. Can you think of a time when looking back, you saw how God carried you through something uncertain?
  4. How can we support each other better as a group when we’re going through uncertain times?

Just Be There: The Power of Presence in a Friend’s Tough Season

Sometimes, the best thing we can do for a friend or loved one who’s hurting isn’t to offer advice or fix the problem—it’s simply to be there.

We’ve all been there at some point: a friend is going through something heavy—loss, uncertainty, a hard decision, or just feeling overwhelmed by life. It’s tempting to want to jump in and “solve it” or offer the perfect words. But more often than not, what they really need is someone who’s willing to sit in the mess with them, listen without judgment, and help them find some light in the fog.

There’s something deeply comforting about having a steady presence beside you when everything feels unsteady.

In the book of Job, after Job loses nearly everything, his friends come to him. For the first seven days, they don’t say a word. “They sat on the ground with him for seven days and seven nights. No one said a word to him because they saw how great his suffering was” (Job 2:13, NIV). Say what you will about what they did after, but in those first seven days—they got it right. They just showed up.

Being a faithful friend isn’t about having all the answers. Sometimes it’s just about creating space—letting someone talk things out, ask the hard questions, or even sit in silence. It’s about helping them see that they’re not alone and that there’s hope, even if they can’t see it yet.

Proverbs 17:17 reminds us, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” When someone’s walking through adversity, we’re called to walk with them—not ahead of them, dragging them forward, and not behind, pushing them—but with them.

And sometimes, that kind of presence opens the door for God to bring peace, clarity, and even new direction. Galatians 6:2 encourages us to “carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” What a powerful reminder that just being there for someone is a deeply spiritual act.

So if someone you know is going through a rough time, don’t worry about the perfect words. Bring a calm presence, and maybe a cup of coffee. That might be the most Christ-like thing you do in that moment.

Questions:

How does Job’s story challenge the way we normally respond to others in pain?

Why do we often feel pressure to “do something” when a friend is hurting, instead of simply being there?

What does it mean to you personally to “carry someone’s burden” like Galatians 6:2 says?

What might God be teaching us when He calls us to simply sit with someone in their suffering instead of “fixing” it?

Hope on the Horizon

Easter is coming—and it brings with it a reminder we all need from time to time: God isn’t finished yet.

We all hit seasons that feel heavy. Maybe life’s felt stuck lately. Maybe you’ve been carrying questions, disappointments, or even quiet battles no one sees. And maybe you’ve wondered, “Is this it?”

But Easter says, “Not even close.”

When Jesus went to the cross, it looked like the end. From a human perspective, everything pointed to loss. His closest friends scattered. His enemies felt victorious. Hope seemed buried with Him in the tomb. But buried doesn’t mean gone. And dead doesn’t mean done.

The resurrection isn’t just a moment in history—it’s a message to every one of us. It’s God’s way of saying, “I’m still at work. I still bring dead things to life. I still write redemptive endings.”

Isaiah 43:19 puts it this way: “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?” That’s the heartbeat of Easter. New life. Fresh hope. A comeback no one saw coming.

And it’s not just for the polished or the put-together. It’s for the tired dad, the uncertain husband, the man who’s been showing up but feeling flat. Easter reminds us that our worst day isn’t the final word. That God can take what looks like defeat and turn it into resurrection.

Romans 8:11 gives us this incredible promise: “The Spirit of God who raised Jesus from the dead lives in you.” That means resurrection power isn’t just something to celebrate—it’s something we can live from. Right here. Right now.

If you’re like me, you like to help God co-author your story. I’m great at trying to speed things up or blaze my own trail. But I only find real peace when I sit back and trust that His writing—both the content and the style—is far better and more effective than mine. And to anchor that truth, here are a few verses that remind us we really can trust Him to author our story:

Hebrews 12:2 refers to Jesus as “the author and perfecter of our faith”.

Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us of God’s intentions: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.”

Whatever season you’re in, Easter invites you to believe again. To trust that God is still writing your story, even if you’re stuck on a hard chapter.

Questions:

  • What part of today’s message resonated with you the most?
  • Where in your life do you need to be reminded that “God is not finished yet”?
  • If you are comfortable doing so, please share a time when God brought something good out of a difficult season in your life?
  • What does it look like, practically, to “sit back and trust” God in your current season?

Slowing Down for Lent: Making Space for What Matters

Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. (Psalm 139:23-24)

Life doesn’t exactly ask us to slow down. Between work, family, responsibilities, and just trying to keep up, we can find ourselves running on fumes without even realizing it. That’s where Lent comes in.

Lent is the 40-day period leading up to Easter, a time when Christians around the world pause to reflect, reset, and realign their lives with God. It’s not about being perfect or checking religious boxes—it’s about making space. Space to hear God’s voice. Space to notice what we’ve been clinging to. Space to let go of what’s been holding us back.

Why 40 Days?

It mirrors the 40 days Jesus spent in the wilderness. He was tempted, tested, and stripped of comfort—but it was also a time of deep connection with God. Lent invites us into something similar. Not to suffer for the sake of it, but to step away from distractions and draw closer to the One who gives us real life.

It’s Not Just About Giving Something Up

People often give up things like sweets, social media, or caffeine. But it’s not about the “what” as much as the “why.” Giving something up can open space for something greater. Maybe you skip your morning scroll and talk to God instead. Or fast from negativity and choose encouragement. Lent can also mean adding something—like starting a gratitude journal, checking in on a friend each week, or spending 10 minutes in silence with God.

It’s About the Heart

God’s not impressed by how good we are at saying no to chocolate. He’s after our hearts. Lent is about returning to Him—letting Him reset what’s out of rhythm and remind us of who we really are: deeply loved, fully known, and never alone.

So whether you’ve practiced Lent for years or this is your first time hearing about it, you’re invited. Not to perform, but to pause. Not to impress, but to reconnect.

Questions:

  1. Have you ever participated in Lent before (giving something up or adding something)? What was your experience like?
  2. If you haven’t already, what’s one thing you’d consider giving up—or adding in—this Lent to make space for God?
  3. When was the last time you slowed down just to be still with God?
  4. What “noise” or distraction tends to pull your attention away from faith lately?
  5. How could this group support you in your Lent journey?