Month: April 2025

Just Be There: The Power of Presence in a Friend’s Tough Season

Sometimes, the best thing we can do for a friend or loved one who’s hurting isn’t to offer advice or fix the problem—it’s simply to be there.

We’ve all been there at some point: a friend is going through something heavy—loss, uncertainty, a hard decision, or just feeling overwhelmed by life. It’s tempting to want to jump in and “solve it” or offer the perfect words. But more often than not, what they really need is someone who’s willing to sit in the mess with them, listen without judgment, and help them find some light in the fog.

There’s something deeply comforting about having a steady presence beside you when everything feels unsteady.

In the book of Job, after Job loses nearly everything, his friends come to him. For the first seven days, they don’t say a word. “They sat on the ground with him for seven days and seven nights. No one said a word to him because they saw how great his suffering was” (Job 2:13, NIV). Say what you will about what they did after, but in those first seven days—they got it right. They just showed up.

Being a faithful friend isn’t about having all the answers. Sometimes it’s just about creating space—letting someone talk things out, ask the hard questions, or even sit in silence. It’s about helping them see that they’re not alone and that there’s hope, even if they can’t see it yet.

Proverbs 17:17 reminds us, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” When someone’s walking through adversity, we’re called to walk with them—not ahead of them, dragging them forward, and not behind, pushing them—but with them.

And sometimes, that kind of presence opens the door for God to bring peace, clarity, and even new direction. Galatians 6:2 encourages us to “carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” What a powerful reminder that just being there for someone is a deeply spiritual act.

So if someone you know is going through a rough time, don’t worry about the perfect words. Bring a calm presence, and maybe a cup of coffee. That might be the most Christ-like thing you do in that moment.

Questions:

How does Job’s story challenge the way we normally respond to others in pain?

Why do we often feel pressure to “do something” when a friend is hurting, instead of simply being there?

What does it mean to you personally to “carry someone’s burden” like Galatians 6:2 says?

What might God be teaching us when He calls us to simply sit with someone in their suffering instead of “fixing” it?

Hope on the Horizon

Easter is coming—and it brings with it a reminder we all need from time to time: God isn’t finished yet.

We all hit seasons that feel heavy. Maybe life’s felt stuck lately. Maybe you’ve been carrying questions, disappointments, or even quiet battles no one sees. And maybe you’ve wondered, “Is this it?”

But Easter says, “Not even close.”

When Jesus went to the cross, it looked like the end. From a human perspective, everything pointed to loss. His closest friends scattered. His enemies felt victorious. Hope seemed buried with Him in the tomb. But buried doesn’t mean gone. And dead doesn’t mean done.

The resurrection isn’t just a moment in history—it’s a message to every one of us. It’s God’s way of saying, “I’m still at work. I still bring dead things to life. I still write redemptive endings.”

Isaiah 43:19 puts it this way: “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?” That’s the heartbeat of Easter. New life. Fresh hope. A comeback no one saw coming.

And it’s not just for the polished or the put-together. It’s for the tired dad, the uncertain husband, the man who’s been showing up but feeling flat. Easter reminds us that our worst day isn’t the final word. That God can take what looks like defeat and turn it into resurrection.

Romans 8:11 gives us this incredible promise: “The Spirit of God who raised Jesus from the dead lives in you.” That means resurrection power isn’t just something to celebrate—it’s something we can live from. Right here. Right now.

If you’re like me, you like to help God co-author your story. I’m great at trying to speed things up or blaze my own trail. But I only find real peace when I sit back and trust that His writing—both the content and the style—is far better and more effective than mine. And to anchor that truth, here are a few verses that remind us we really can trust Him to author our story:

Hebrews 12:2 refers to Jesus as “the author and perfecter of our faith”.

Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us of God’s intentions: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.”

Whatever season you’re in, Easter invites you to believe again. To trust that God is still writing your story, even if you’re stuck on a hard chapter.

Questions:

  • What part of today’s message resonated with you the most?
  • Where in your life do you need to be reminded that “God is not finished yet”?
  • If you are comfortable doing so, please share a time when God brought something good out of a difficult season in your life?
  • What does it look like, practically, to “sit back and trust” God in your current season?

Slowing Down for Lent: Making Space for What Matters

Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. (Psalm 139:23-24)

Life doesn’t exactly ask us to slow down. Between work, family, responsibilities, and just trying to keep up, we can find ourselves running on fumes without even realizing it. That’s where Lent comes in.

Lent is the 40-day period leading up to Easter, a time when Christians around the world pause to reflect, reset, and realign their lives with God. It’s not about being perfect or checking religious boxes—it’s about making space. Space to hear God’s voice. Space to notice what we’ve been clinging to. Space to let go of what’s been holding us back.

Why 40 Days?

It mirrors the 40 days Jesus spent in the wilderness. He was tempted, tested, and stripped of comfort—but it was also a time of deep connection with God. Lent invites us into something similar. Not to suffer for the sake of it, but to step away from distractions and draw closer to the One who gives us real life.

It’s Not Just About Giving Something Up

People often give up things like sweets, social media, or caffeine. But it’s not about the “what” as much as the “why.” Giving something up can open space for something greater. Maybe you skip your morning scroll and talk to God instead. Or fast from negativity and choose encouragement. Lent can also mean adding something—like starting a gratitude journal, checking in on a friend each week, or spending 10 minutes in silence with God.

It’s About the Heart

God’s not impressed by how good we are at saying no to chocolate. He’s after our hearts. Lent is about returning to Him—letting Him reset what’s out of rhythm and remind us of who we really are: deeply loved, fully known, and never alone.

So whether you’ve practiced Lent for years or this is your first time hearing about it, you’re invited. Not to perform, but to pause. Not to impress, but to reconnect.

Questions:

  1. Have you ever participated in Lent before (giving something up or adding something)? What was your experience like?
  2. If you haven’t already, what’s one thing you’d consider giving up—or adding in—this Lent to make space for God?
  3. When was the last time you slowed down just to be still with God?
  4. What “noise” or distraction tends to pull your attention away from faith lately?
  5. How could this group support you in your Lent journey?