As we continue with the fourth week of “The Man in the Mirror,” today’s chapter challenges us with a deep question: “Why do I exist?” This goes beyond the everyday roles we play—whether as professionals, parents, friends, or partners—and touches the core of our existence. As we navigate our daily lives, it’s easy to get caught up in the what without stopping to consider the why.
In the ‘goals vs. purpose’ discussion, he notes that goals are WHAT we do, and our purpose is WHY we do it. He distinguishes between the fleeting satisfaction derived from worldly goals and the enduring joy found in living out our divine purpose. This distinction influences our motivation and the fulfillment we derive from our actions.
God’s purpose for our lives is THE reason we exist, and once we understand His purpose for us, then we can set goals to move in that direction. So, one litmus test is to simply ask ourselves, “Why am I pursuing this goal?”. This simple but powerful question may help us determine if we are aligned with God’s plan. Of course, there may be some gray areas, but in many cases, the answer might be closer to the “worldly” end or the “Godly” end of the range.
For instance, consider pursuits like improving a golf handicap or climbing the corporate ladder. While these activities might seem worldly or secular, if they are part of a broader effort to glorify God and love others—possibly by building community or living with integrity & discipline—they can indeed align with our spiritual purpose. However, if such pursuits become ends in themselves or primary goals, they might lead us away from our true calling.
Purpose is not a destination but a journey marked by continual effort to align our talents and opportunities with God’s will. This path involves using our unique gifts in our homes, professions, community, or other daily interactions to serve and glorify God, fulfilling the Great Commission and contributing to His kingdom.
As we reflect on our purpose, here is a scripture from Colossians 3:23 to help keep us aligned correctly: “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.” This verse reminds us that our purpose in all endeavors should be to serve and honor God and that our goals should be aligned with this purpose.
Questions:
- What was your biggest take-away from today’s lesson? Were there any ‘a-ha’ moments?
- Reflecting on your current goals, would you say they are mostly aligned with your Godly purpose?
- Can you think of a time when pursuing a worldly goal distracted you from your spiritual purpose? If you were able to get back on track, how did you realign yourself with God’s plan?
- Based on today’s lesson, if you were helping someone better align their “what” with their “why”, what are some practical steps you would suggest?
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